1/ Your wedding day is all about you and your fiancé
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Naturally, your relationship is at the heart of the wedding, but it’s also an incredibly special day for both of your families and a celebration hosted for your guests. Balance your own ideas and needs with those of the people around you and you’ll be right on track to being a bride everyone will love!
2/ Your engagement will be the happiest time of your life and everyone will be supportive
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Many brides have rose-tinted ideas about wedding planning. They imagine a happy time spent bonding with their fiancé, family and friends over flowers, venues and place settings. Unfortunately, as life goes, the reality contains far more ups and downs.
While many people may surprise you with their flexibility and support, others may disappoint you by being overly opinionated, confrontational or otherwise difficult. There may be anxiety, fear and arguments mixed in with the excitement, fun and romance. It helps to know that this is perfectly normal – planning an event on the scale of a wedding can be overwhelming and tricky to navigate. It’s not uncommon for you, your fiancé and/or your loved ones to behave differently than you might expect under this pressure.
Of course, even if the planning isn’t plain sailing, that doesn’t mean the wedding day itself can’t be the happiest day of your life!
3/ You have to spend a fortune
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Often it can feel like every part of a wedding comes with an unavoidably large price tag attached. As we’ve discussed, being pressured into overspending is never a good idea and you can absolutely have a wonderful wedding on a budget. Make sure you take plenty of time to figure out your priorities and values - once you have those as your focus, there are tonnes of opportunities to get resourceful and save your pennies across the board!
4/ Every tiny detail must be perfect (and your guests will notice if it isn’t)
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Like many others, the wedding industry is built on selling the idea of “perfect”, which is nearly always unattainable. Chasing someone else’s idea of a dream wedding is a recipe for anxiety and exhaustion - a far healthier goal is to make your wedding perfect for you. The large majority of guests won’t notice if you don’t provide something for them to toss, or bat an eyelid if the aisle isn’t perfectly bedecked with fabric or fresh flowers. Your time and energy is precious, so don’t waste it worrying about things that really won’t make much of a difference to your day!
5/ You must honour wedding traditions
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The bride’s father walks her down the aisle. The bride wears a white dress and carries something old, new, borrowed and blue. You mustn’t see each other before the ceremony. The bride should have bridesmaids and the groom should have groomsmen…
There’s a long history of wedding traditions and brides often feel compelled to honour them. If the traditions will be part of the joy of the wedding for you or your fiancé, by all means, go for it! If not, don’t shoehorn in anything that doesn’t feel natural. The day may take on a sense of artificiality or discomfort if you’re doing things purely out of a sense of tradition or to please other people.
Have more guy friends than girlfriends? Have a Man of Honour or bridesmen. Don’t want a big wedding? Elope or keep the wedding to your closest friends and family. White washes you out? Wear a different coloured gown or something more to your taste!